Repairing Burned Bridges

God’s grace given and received repairs burned bridges, makes the heart smile, and dismantles bitterness!

I love the times when God gives me the grace to step out of my comfort zone and He gets the glory.  Sometimes that involves a task for which I do not feel equipped.  Sometimes it means reaching out to someone either I know dislikes me, for reasons real or imagined, or to someone I have hurt or who has hurt me.  Either way, it is taking God at His Word and watching Him do “super abundantly more than I can think or ask!”

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The enemy of our souls loves to make us fearful of situations and to take wounds we have received to nurture bitterness in our hearts towards others.  He loves to feed our insecurities and/or our indignation.

But God says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”  (Romans 12:18)  Not peace at any cost.  Not peace at the expense of Truth.  But where we are able to take that step and allow God to repair bridges that have been burned by hurtful actions or words; where we can say “Please forgive me” or “I forgive you,” that is where the healing begins not only for the other person but for ourselves.  And that is where God is glorified.

Our God shows His power in our weakness.  He prompts us, by His grace, to act and asks us to respond to His promptings.  Will we ignore and choose to feed our resentment or our apprehension?  Will we justify our response or will we, in humility before the Father, act according to His Word and reap the blessing of obedience.  Sometimes that blessing will come in the form of a healed relationship and sometimes it will be realized in the peace God gives simply because we have said, “Yes, Lord” and left the ultimate outcome to Him.

Recently, fear almost got the best of me.  Recently, I came upon an acquaintance who had become angry with my husband and I over a situation that we had not intended but had since taken measures to correct it.  I knew I needed to speak – God made that clear and I was willing…until she got closer; then fear started to creep in and my desire to avoid the possibility of her anger again almost took over.  I began to justify my hesitance with thoughts such as “What does it matter now?” and  “What will it matter; we are only acquaintances not friends.”  But the Holy Spirit nudging continued and by God’s grace, I spoke.  What ensued was nothing less than more of God’s superabundant mercy.  Understanding replaced anger; a common ground replaced fearfulness.  A burned bridge was rebuilt with stronger foundations.

I could have turned the other way and continued to nurture an attitude that probably never would have hurt the other person, for truly our paths rarely cross.  But the reality is that attitude left unchecked would have changed me.  The enemy of our souls loves to take that which we leave unfinished, the small “root of bitterness,” and from it create a chasm by way of an unloving and unforgiving spirit.  Whatever part we have in the smoldering bridge, we must bring it to the cross and let the grace of God change us rather let it slowly burn through our soul eventually touching those with whom we have relationships.

There will be times, as has been the case before for me, that apologies will not be accepted, that another will not allow a passage to be rebuilt.   But that is the “as far as it depends on you” part of Romans 12:18.  We act in obedience and we ask God to bring the healing and restoration as only He can.  And, if the bridge is restored, we are to be the first to step on and walk towards another for God’s glory and our great joy!

5 thoughts on “Repairing Burned Bridges

  1. Thank you for these words and your story. It reminds me of a bridge that I need to repair that has been broken for way too long.

  2. I can relate. My heart was broken and a bridge was burned a long time ago. Time passed and although the bridge was never rebuilt, it always remained in my heart. I saw her dancing when she thought no one was looking and she still dances in my heart today. I was unforgiving and while I now know it ended up best for both of us, I hope that special person knows that I was wrong in how I treated her and I’m sorry that it ended the way it did. Thank you for your heartfelt messages.

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